Another reader – who was attempting to shoot down my assertion that you should ideally wait 2-3 years before getting engaged – sent me a link to a super-informative article.“The fact of a couple moving quickly toward marriage is not in and of itself a problem as much as what is driving the speed.Before you can ask and answer how long an engagement should be, you should first ask, “How well do I really know you?
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If a couple is still finding lots of reasons not to marry after four or more years, then that’s usually because they’re subconsciously picking up on problems or even thinking that they themselves aren’t suitable for marriage, ever.” Makes perfect sense to me.
Which is why I’m going to double down on my theory that you shouldn’t get engaged before at least two years (like most couples already do) and you shouldn’t marry when you’re caught up in those giddy feelings.
When two people marry, two families are joined, so spend enough time with the family of the one you are dating to see if you “fit” in each other’s families.
Your future will be MUCH easier if you enjoy spending time with each other’s families.
They possess a much better idea of what they want and what they don’t want in a relationship.
You might think you and your partner could rush down the aisle faster than your 20-something counterparts who don’t know themselves as well as you do, but not so fast!By the same token, if one party is really delaying marriage (going beyond 4 years), then it’s not a matter of being cautious, it’s a sign that he/she doesn’t really want to get married.Other useful takeaways: •Happily married couples shared many traits, including courtships that progressed smoothly toward marriage with little drama; their courtships had a quiet, romantic feeling, but as important, they sensed they were marrying someone who could be a good friend.A courtship may be an informal and private matter between two people or may be a public affair, or a formal arrangement with family approval.Traditionally, in the case of a formal engagement, it has been perceived that it is the role of a male to actively "court" or "woo" a female, thus encouraging her to understand him and her receptiveness to a proposal of marriage.” Most senior singles have been married at least once before.