Dating for a widower

People say that the death of a loved one, loss of a job and moving house are three of the most stressful situations – and we had to endure all three at the same time.I'm 39, and like many younger bereaved people, I've had to get used to a word I never thought would apply to me: widower. ” (Post #38) Lessons Learned by a Dating Widower According to , no one knows the origination of the term “Geez Louise”, but it has been used for many years.

So when a partner dies, the grieving is not only for our beloved but also for the relationship itself. Each person’s experience of bereavement is different and unique.

To try and quantify an ‘average duration’ for grieving and recover is futile.

The death of a spouse is one of the most traumatic events that can befall a person.

Be it due to an illness, or suddenly in an accident, it leaves a painful hole behind.

Dealing with the loss of a spouse is bad enough, but seeing your children suffer – waking from nightmares about their mum, crying uncontrollably without warning, getting upset at school at the slightest trigger – is even worse.

Mother's Day became the most dreaded day of the year.The heart of our family had been ripped away from us, and as much as counselling helped me come to terms with the reality, the gaping hole remained.After a while, though, I realised that eventually I would have to try to fill the gaping hole and I began to think about another aspect of my situation – being single again after 14 years of marriage. One day, my daughter asked me if I was going to get a girlfriend. After a pause, she asked with a hint of excitement: "Will we get a baby brother or sister?If the guilt does not go away, it probably means that it’s too soon.Another important thing in widower dating is timing.Moving on from losing a partner is one of the hardest things to deal with.