She began to date non-observant Jewish men, dipping a toe in here and there, until, like me, she realized that secular Jewish men who wanted to marry Jewish women wanted to marry Jewish women who would eat in non-kosher restaurants and go out before the sunset on Saturday nights after the Sabbath ended.
I resolved that I would only go out with Jewish girls. I attributed this to the fact that I was kind of nerdy: My extra-curricular activities included musical theater, video games, and Dungeons & Dragons, not exactly the types of things that made a guy popular with the ladies. I had numerous opportunities, on the other hand, to date non-Jewish women.
In high school, this decision proved to be mostly moot. I tried not to follow up on them at first, but I was frustrated and lonely and had finite willpower.
This also assumes that the child is being raised exclusively as a Jew and not practicing another religion.
Lianne, 41, took Jacob, her 4-month-old baby, out of his stroller and held him in her arms as we sat down for coffee on the Upper West Side of Manhattan.
As a result, many of our Jewish leaders and even major philanthropists are finding that their grandchildren are not necessarily being raised Jewishly.
But not every interfaith marriage is a threat to Jewish continuity.She and her husband, Mark, conceived Jacob just weeks after they were married about a year ago.Like me, Lianne was once a more observant Jew, having become more religious in her twenties, attracted to family-style Sabbath dinners and holidays.Prior to this period, the Bible recognized patrilineal descent, whereby one’s Jewish status was determined by one’s father.In 1983, the organized Reform Jewish Movement adopted the principal of patrilineal descent. Reform Judaism considers a child of an interfaith couple to be Jewish if one parent is Jewish and the child is raised as a Jew and receives a Jewish education and celebrates appropriate life cycle events, such as receiving a Hebrew name and becoming bar or bat mitzvah. Boy, have we got shiksa, non-Jewish woman, problems.